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Friday, November 12, 2004


Janice (Jan @ GT)

Dear Mary, I know this reply comes a little late, but none the less, I need to share it with you.

Reading about the anniversary of your mom's death and how to deal with it reminded me of a "death anniversary" in my own family.

First let me say, John 3:16 has a huge and significant meaning in my life. Read on.

My baby son Trevor, died peacefully in his sleep (SIDS) 22 years ago. For years, the days leading up to his anniversary found me crying, sick to my stomach and anxiety ridden. Trevor was our third child and was to be our last. Our little family was complete. Or so I thought.

There's a line in a song I love by Stephen Curtis Chapman which says, "God never wastes a singe hurt that you've endured." And he sured didn't in the case of Trevor. A little more than a year after Trevor was called home, our daughter Ashley was born. She was a ray of sunshine not only because of the sadness of those days but because she just radiated with happiness. She was comical and silly and a bit eccentric. Someone, not too long ago told me, "There's something different about her. There's a light shining all around her." Ashley accepted Jesus as her Savior when she was in high school. Two years later, she begged her mom and dad to come to the church she'd been attending because it was "just so awesome". I can't say exactly when Mark and I committed ourselves to Jesus but we did...because of Ashley's persistence.

It took me 19 years to realize why God took Trevor from us. I never would have had Ashley if I hadn't lost Trevor and what was to happen years later may not have happened.

This year, on March 16th.(3:16), the anniversary of Trevor's death, I celebrated and rejoiced in the fact that God took one of my children and gave me another. From now on, his anniversary will have new meaning for me. I'll praise and thank God for His great and awesome plan which leads me to everlasting life.

"God never wastes a single hurt that you've endured"

Mary, I pray that one day, you will look forward to your mom's anniversary date because it's a celebration of your birth and her joining in fellowship with God.

God Bless,

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Authors I enjoy

  • Angela Elwell Hunt
    Everything Angie writes is well-written. Not always easy to read, but definitely *worth* reading.
  • Anne McCaffrey
    One of the reigning queens of Science Fiction.
  • C.S. Lewis
  • Celia Hayes
    Celia Hayes is not only a favorite author but a personal friend. If you like historical fiction, especially thoroughly researched, well-written historical fiction about Texas, you need to read her books.
  • Dick Francis
  • Earlene Fowler
    If Benni Harper were a real person, I'd want to be her friend.
  • Elizabeth Moon
    Sci-Fi/Fantasy. LOVE her Deed of Paksenarrion, and her entire Heris Serrano/Esmay Suiva series.
  • J.R.R. Tolkien
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    He wrote more than just westerns, people....
  • Madeleine L'Engle
    My all-time fave. Both her fiction and non-fiction are very readable, and always thought-provoking.
  • S.M. Stirling
    Time-travel/Alternate Histories.
  • Terri Blackstock
    Some of the best legal thrillers (for lack of a better term) I've read. Believable characters that it's easy to care about, as well.
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Other People's Musings

  • Blog - The Steve Laube Agency
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    "Restoring Faith in Humanity...One Story at a Time." True, not sappy, stories written by ordinary people about how other people have impacted their lives. Another e-newsletter created by Randy Cassingham, now published by Leo of From the website: Our mission is to publish examples of people being good to each other, to inspire similar heroic actions in others.
  • Joanne Jacobs
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    Randy Cassingham's e-newsletter proving that "truth is stranger than fiction, because fiction has to make sense." From the website: This is True is a weekly syndicated newspaper column by Colorado humorist Randy Cassingham. True reports on bizarre-but-true news items from legitimate newspapers from around the world (never "tabloids"). Each story ends with commentary by Randy -- a tagline which is humorous, ironic or opinionated.
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